family balance

Now that my wife and I are empty-nesters, I often notice younger parents hustling around town with their children in tow. Often times the children are wearing uniforms for soccer, baseball, and the like. Oh boy, does that bring back memories from my past! Unfortunately for me, many of the memories are not pleasant and some are downright depressing.

Reflecting back, I now know that I did an injustice to my children, my wife, and myself. We became “too” busy doing what one would consider good things. There are many great qualities associated with organized sports, playing musical instruments, and participating in other organized competition—all good things. The problem—we did not spend enough time focused on the best things.

Now that I know better, my kids are out of my house and on their own. So—here is advice for future parents and those who still have children living at home—focus on the best things. I have some “best things” in mind. I would have more family meals with everyone required to be present, more regular attendance to church every week, more time talking about the bible, and more time praying together. Focusing on the best things also means cutting out a lot of the “good things.” Not all of the good things—keep a few to give the family some balance. We just should not be a family where mom and dad serve as a taxi service rather than the spiritual leaders in the home.

Once you realign your priorities, you can sit down to dinner with your entire family and maybe start off the prayer with something like this, “He says, ‘Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.’  The Lord Almighty is with us…” (Psalm 46:10-11a)

We and our children both will benefit when the best thing in our lives is God!